“I’ve lost almost everything I’ve built because of someone I loved with my whole life, I still have panic attacks every night because of the pain and betrayal”
A UK based Nigerian man, Franklyn, known on social media as @phranklie1, has shared a shocking story of alleged relationship betrayal, revealing the devastating consequences he faced after his partner reportedly cheated on him. According to Franklyn, he supported his former partner’s relocation to the United Kingdom, assisting with her IELTS preparation, NMC registration, dissertation, and job process, as well as sponsoring family related activities and supporting her transition abroad financially and emotionally.
The Alleged Betrayal
Franklyn alleged that the relationship later deteriorated after he discovered conversations suggesting she was involved with another man. He claimed that following a confrontation, she reported him to the police, resulting in legal troubles that allegedly led to the loss of his visa status, court appearances, financial strain, and emotional trauma. As relationship experts often note, trust is a crucial component of any successful partnership, and its breakdown can have severe consequences.
The man’s experience forced him into therapy, and he is still battling panic attacks, while also affecting his finances, career, and personal stability. Despite expressing deep pain over the situation, he noted that he wishes her well and does not want to hold onto hatred. According to Pulse.ng, similar cases of relationship betrayal have been reported in the past, highlighting the need for couples to prioritize trust and communication.
Confronting the Pain
Franklyn shared his story in reaction to a recent post by a London based Nigerian man who revealed that his wife was cheating on him. In his post, Franklyn said:
“Lol, i brought mine to UK, we did her NMC registration, we practiced for her Ielts, did her dissertation, got her a job, she got COS, brought her parents for her graduation, she reported me 2 the police that i hit her cos of another man in ManC, i lost my 5yr visa. Stay strong”
“I saw another man tell someone i was in a 5yrs relationship with that he misses how soft her bum was. That he couldn’t wait to thrust his D in her again. Yet she always lied about it. It broke me.
“I would be at work and she would be on call with different men in my bed. Sold some of my properties including a house in Lagos to afford legal fees just to not go to jail.
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The first time in my life I slept in a police cell with cuffs. I remember my friends calling the guy in Manchester to beg her to withdraw her statement, the idiot said ‘No, what if i had killed his girlfriend’.
Seeking Closure
As reported by Vanguard, the incident has sparked a heated debate on social media, with many users sharing their own experiences of relationship betrayal. Franklyn’s story serves as a reminder of the importance of trust, communication, and mutual respect in any relationship. According to mental health experts, seeking professional help is crucial for individuals dealing with the aftermath of relationship betrayal.
“I now have a criminal record because of someone i have loved with all my heart. And what hurts the most is that i wouldn’t do that to her even in my highest point of pain.
“The betrayal hurts so much. She broke up with me, my parents called her severally to understand what the issue was because me sef shock.
“She said i didn’t trust her hence why. I went to therapy because i thought i was the problem cos i found it hard to trust her after she cheated with multiple men while in Nigeria in 2023.
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Was dragged in and out of court like a criminal because of the good i had done to someone i saw a future with.
“I lost my insurance, police destroyed my home because she reported and they were looking for me and I’m still paying for the damages worth over 4k.
Moving Forward
The day i confronted her, tried so much to hold my pain and anger but i messed up by cutting the gold necklace i got her and tore her shirt out of anger. Never hit her cos i don’t hit women. As noted by NAN, the incident highlights the need for individuals to prioritize their emotional well being and seek help when dealing with traumatic experiences.
“She saw me fast and pray everyday, join hallelujah challenge every night, drive 3hrs each morning and 3hrs back to office in a different city each day because of COS.
“Suddenly someone i would have moved heaven and earth for thought she doesn’t need me anymore because i had just applied for her visa and she is now settled.
“She swore on her life that no other man was in the picture.
“I’ve lost almost everything I’ve built because of someone i loved with my whole life. I still have panic attacks every night because of the pain and betrayal.
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This person never struggled with anything when i brought her here. This is a family that i contributed money for their family functions. We all celebrated Christmas with her parents here last year.
“I screen recorded the messages. I think i still have a screenshot of one of their chat somewhere in me and my friends chat because it pained my heart to see the whole messages.
“The guy must think he has hit a jackpot with her.
“I wish her all the best in life because the hate in my heart would destroy me if I don’t.”
